Relationships: A huge pile of joy comes to you one fine day. You are on cloud nine. And day by day, before you realise, something goes missing. You try hunting the missing bit down, and you lose it totally. After a few more days, you come up with that common conclusion, may be the right person is on his way. And it continues....
A few tears, a few smiles, a few memories, and a few friendships. All of these together define unique relationships. Friends come, a few last, and a few don't. The ones that last, are there cause you have ignored the bits you have hated about them. The ones who go away, probably could not ignore the things they hated about you.
I know people, who just could not make peace with the above definition. They lost someone, and could never find a ground for their feet again. I know friends who have defined relationship as: a happiness that stays and stays forever. I fail to understand how it works for them.
I have found solutions to the complicated designing problems in the systems I work with, however have always failed to find a solution for the state where relationship starts being called "the complicated one". I fail to realise, why it eventually just reaches this phase for all of us.
Don't we all start off with that perfect companion? Don't we start hanging out with those perfect friends. Where do we lose these perfect people eventually. Only after a while we realise how things just stop working out. Some of us shout, blame others and get over with it. But I cannot. Putting myself in everyone's shoes, I have always found every one justified. Then why does every time some one has to be called the "bad one", and has to be left behind? Was that "bad one", not once the reason of some beautiful smiles? Why is it that someone eventually becomes the "wrong person to be with". Was that same person not a reason for our happiness some time ago, and seemed the most perfect person on this earth?
May be all this just defines that nothing in our life is permanent. But then how it is totally a disaster to realise one fine day, that one person was not right! You have to move on. You have to find that right friend to hang out with, that one right person to fall in love with, that one right person to smile with, that one right person to spend life with.
However, with the way people change from right to wrong, with the way my attitude changes from right to wrong, with the speed with which time changes from right to wrong, I can just hope, that I get it right one fine day!
A few tears, a few smiles, a few memories, and a few friendships. All of these together define unique relationships. Friends come, a few last, and a few don't. The ones that last, are there cause you have ignored the bits you have hated about them. The ones who go away, probably could not ignore the things they hated about you.
I know people, who just could not make peace with the above definition. They lost someone, and could never find a ground for their feet again. I know friends who have defined relationship as: a happiness that stays and stays forever. I fail to understand how it works for them.
I have found solutions to the complicated designing problems in the systems I work with, however have always failed to find a solution for the state where relationship starts being called "the complicated one". I fail to realise, why it eventually just reaches this phase for all of us.
May be all this just defines that nothing in our life is permanent. But then how it is totally a disaster to realise one fine day, that one person was not right! You have to move on. You have to find that right friend to hang out with, that one right person to fall in love with, that one right person to smile with, that one right person to spend life with.
However, with the way people change from right to wrong, with the way my attitude changes from right to wrong, with the speed with which time changes from right to wrong, I can just hope, that I get it right one fine day!
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